This week we're talking about a sort of reverse Golden Rule: "Would you ever treat other people the way you treat yourself?" To many of us self-critical, people-pleasing types, cutting ourselves some slack feels like a sign of weakness; if we learn to treat ourselves gently, won't we sacrifice productivity? Or could love and understanding make us better at what we do? Sounds like commie talk, but at this point we'll try anything. Brought to you by the Palomino Blackwing, ideal for those who prefer a soft, dark line.
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We all know that colleague who has to turn every conversation into a promo for their upcoming show, or their side business, even though you're a friend and not a casting director.
Where is the sweet spot between being "savvy self promotor" and an annoying blow-hard? As contractors and sole proprietors, we need to let people know that we are good, and that we are busy, and sought-after. And we have to be responsible for getting our own work (agents or no agents). But how do we do this in a genuine way? Perhaps the answer lies in effective networking. But what does that actually mean?
How do you sing an audition, or have a conversation with a general director, in such a way that you seem "eager & energetic", but don't seem "desperate & irritating"?
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Book - The Introvert Advantage: How To Thrive in an Extrovert World
MailChimp - Mail Chimp; Send Better Email
Canada's Law on Spam and Other Electronic Threats
MailChimp Knowledge Base Article - About the Canada Anti-Spam Law (CASL)
The Grammarphobia Blog: It’s NYOOZE to us
How To Network Without Being Fake, by Jenn Scalia
IMdb - It Should Happen to You (1954)
YouTube - It Should Happen to You - Trailer
YouTube - #AlexFromTarget Meets #EllenFromEllen, TheEllenShow
Podcast - Get Fact
YouTube - Judy Garland: 'Meet Me In St. Louis'. 'Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas'
Theme Music: Slyvius Leopold Weiss's Preludio in E Major, played by Jeff Carter
And now, for your amusement: Chris and Isaiah stare into the abyss of human mortality. We fill our days with music and with the business of being alive, but it's the human condition to wonder, "What's it all about?"
How much of the creative life is fuelled by the idea of legacy? Will some piece of us live on when we've ceased to exist? When does a longing to be older turn into nostalgia for lost youth? Is the knowledge of death's inevitability present in our every action?
Our desire for meaning in life may go eternally unfulfilled, but your desire to hear a man yelling like a goat that yells like a man will not, if you listen through to the end. #YOLO"
Hooded nordic onesie | Simons:
These Are Not The Best Years of Your Life | A Silver Twig:
The Collaborative Piano Blog - Martin Katz Interview
Urban Dictionary - Yolo
Grief.com – Because LOVE Never Dies Five Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kubler Ross & David Kessler
10,000 Hours To Develop Talent
5by5 | Back to Work #89: Burlap Sack Full of Oranges
IMdb - Interstellar
YouTube - Henry Purcell: Dido's Lament, Anna Dennis, soprano, with Voices of Music 4K UHD
Panoramio - Photo of Lobby, Salle Wilfrid Pelletier, Place des Arts
Busts of Claude Champagne and Beethoven
Image - Point of Origin
How to Tell a Raven from a Crow
YouTube - Goats Yelling Like Humans
Are other people's opinions of us more important than literally any other thing? We were pretty sure the answer was "No, for sure no!" but, upon further discussion, we've arrived at "...maybe?"
Why do put so much stock in what other people think? Caring too much can undoubtedly harm the integrity of our work (and our mental health) - but how can we learn to move past it?
Featuring an unprecedented number of references to therapy.
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Book - 'The Psychopath Test: A Journey Through the Madness Insdustry', by Jon Ronson
YouTube - 'What's On Your Mind?'
Website - Filling the sequence gaps - Jurassic Park Wiki - Jurassic Park, Dinosaurs, Stephen Spielberg
Website - Urban Dictionary - Urban Dictionary: yp/mp
Wikipedia - Nancy Argenta, soprano
Website - Definitely the Opera - A Day in the Life of Canadian mezzo: Vicki St. Pierre
Website - Quotes by Eleanor Roosevelt
Wikipedia - Marquis de Sade
Book - 'Juliette', by Marquis de Sade